“That Michelle, she’s so silly. It’s the new millennium! Women should be the ones to take charge in relationships. If Josh won’t propose, she should do it herself!”

This is what you may be thinking of me at this point. If I’m so desperate to be married to Josh, why haven’t I just popped the question myself? After all, I am a confident, self-sufficient woman of a modern generation.

Well, ladies, you can disagree if you want, but sometimes it’s nice to be more traditional. There are always going to be inequalities between men and women. Our physiological differences will make sure of that. (And as a heterosexual, I’m quite glad we’re different.) So traditions spawned of the dichotomy between masculinity and femininity will also always exist. But not all of them are bad.

It’s not just about wanting him to give me a ring - although, I must admit, rings are quite nice… No. It’s about having a sense of someone wanting to take care of me, of knowing that he really loves me. The reason I think men proposing is a tradition that should not be destroyed is because part of men’s genetic makeups will always make them prone to be promiscuous, sexual creatures. Whether women like it or not, being monogamous is not in a man’s nature. But to me, a man proposing to a woman is like him saying, “Hey, baby. There are lots of hot chicks out there I could score with… but I’m going to try my hardest to keep myself devoted to you, because boy, do you melt my butter.” I mean, how ROMANTIC is that?!

Also, Josh knows I’m ready to be engaged. By allowing him to propose, it gives him the control to do it when he’s ready as well, which is also important. I don’t want to shove him into a situation that he’s not prepared to handle. So when he does propose, I’ll know his heart is, without a doubt, set on me, and ONLY me, and that he’s completely comfortable with that.

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